Harley Quinn Aid!
August 30, 2010 by clownyprincess
comicism asked: But you don't know me, you don't know what workshops I've taken and who I've defended against what. You don't know who I've had discussions with or listened to speak. You don't know how many of my male friends I've talked to about objectification of women or any of that. So linking me to those posts are pretty much why I have a problem with it. Attacking me for what reason? I've not had one positive male role in my life, all I've been surrounded with are strong women and honestly I respect women way more than I do men.
I know what male privilege is and I know that I have it. I'm not sure if I said this or not in my previous post, but if the day had been moved to another day, and not the day I had been looking forward to, I would have been super super for everything it stood for. I just felt like the fact that I'm new to this and the fact that I get to enjoy something with EVERYONE ON TUMBLR, made me feel like I could belong here. Because more than half the time I just don't. I'm not like a lot of the people on Tumblr, and I'm definitely not a woman. I'd say of the people I follow maybe 10% of men.
Oh, go cry more.
You’re not an activist, you’re not a feminist and you are definitely not an ally. All you’ve done here is proven you absolutely do not get it on any remote level. Don’t try and prove to me how awesome a little defender you are, because if you had the courage of your convictions you would not then be asking that we actually CHANGE THE FUCKING DAY to suit you and your male privilege.
And then to turn it around and say that I am attacking you without having any comprehension of the hurtful and ignorant things you said that actually provoked a reaction out of me. A rightful reaction. Oh no, it’s not your fault, is it? You couldn’t possibly have said anything offensive that could’ve upset someone? More male privilege - the shirking of personal responsibility.
I linked you to those posts because - gasp - YOU HAVE A LOT TO LEARN, as you response here proves. You are not some perfect, untouchable ally just because you can talk about positive female role models and claim you object to objectification. It takes a whole lot more than that - like humility, and understanding that saying that women initiating a drive to make themselves more visible as comic book readers actually ruined something you were “looking forward to” and that we all should’ve anticipated your poor sensitivie little feely-weelings and shifted to another day just to convenience you is the HEIGHT of misogynistic self-entitlement.
You DO need to read those links, and this response of yours proves that all the more. So DO YOURSELF AND ALL THE WOMEN YOU PRETEND TO RESPECT A FAVOUR, and go read them - particularly Derailing for Dummies, as you have utilised a half-dozen techniques from it in these couple of posts.
If you can’t do that, then you are a liar. But again - the only person you’re fooling is yourself.
You’re right, I don’t know you - and I don’t want to. I don’t like misogynists and I don’t want them in my life. Eespecially ones masquerading as allies.
