February 19, 2012 by clownyprincess
This is me with a severe hangover and five hours sleep.
Reblogged from clambistro February 17, 2012 by clownyprincess
Guys my bikini line and my Veet Wax Strips With Rose Oil decided to think about essentialist bodyhair policing/misconceptions (“Feminists are hairy!” “Bodyhair removal is unfeminist!”) and so we made a present for you <3
(And no I couldn’t wait for the redness to go down.)
I hope this begins a new era in feminist vajazzling. Feel free to join me!
Oh Clam, I wish I could be half as awesome as you. <3
Tags: glamour, fashion, vagina, feminism, femme, gender politics, gender presentation, | Notes: 75
Reblogged from vivianemae February 16, 2012 by clownyprincess
Chocolate Cock Candle (Taken with instagram)
Oh man! The thing I forgot about the cock-candle (besides from the fact I got wax in my cleavage) is that me and @vivianemae went out to Pie Face after the show and I gave the candle away to some random because she found it so amusing. I vaguely remember being super-fabulous and saying something hilarious, but I can’t remember what. Viviane might.
Tags: femme, glamour, fashion, pin up, drunk, drunk girl, gpoy, burlesque, marilyn monroe, | Notes: 30
You know what?
February 16, 2012 by clownyprincess
(me tearing the shit out of an essentialist ‘how to tell a femme is queer’ list from way back)
Tags: femme, queer women, queer identity, queer politics, lesbian, politics, | Notes: 8
Reblogged from vivianemae February 16, 2012 by clownyprincess
Chocolate Cock Candle (Taken with instagram)
Why yes, that is a candle in the shape of a penis, lit and between my breasts.
Please take careful note of “extremely drunken eye & lip orientation”. That takes talent.
Tags: burlesque, camp, cock, drunk, drunk girl, elise archer, fashion, glamour, gpoy, marilyn monrie, pin up, femme, queer, queer women, high femme, | Notes: 30
February 14, 2012 by clownyprincess
When your bump is so big you gotta slump down in that low-rider to make sure it doesn’t get flattened.
Tags: glamour, fashion, rhinestones, pink, leopard print, femme, high femme, | Notes: 23
Brown Girls And Bois: Femme invisibility from a non-cis POV
Reblogged from queerbrownxx January 31, 2012
Expanded from a comment I wrote on an article by Megan Evans (Huffington Post):
Not all queer women are invisible because of femme presentation. The issue is more complicated among trans women. Some trans women are singled out for violence by the straight world and the cis world because of femme presentation. For some trans women, being femme is what makes them visible. There is another group of trans women who are occasionally read as cis, and other times read as trans. Their invisibility is temporary and random. And some trans women are regularly read as cisgender.
When femme trans women are read as cis, they are doubly invisible until bureaucratic paper trails or honest talks about personal history are used against them. When their queerness is revealed, the outcome is different than when just revealing trans status.
If I am read as trans among queer people, not only is my queerness questioned, but my femme-ness is questioned as well. My body is coded as “male”. I’m written off as “androgynous” unless I go over-the-top in my femininity. Even then, I am granted a segregated version of “femme”, banned from the hallowed halls of cis presentation, written off as a cheap imitation or an amusing oddity.
When I’m read as cis, none of this happens. My experience becomes that of the cis “femme invisibility” narrative. But I mentally start the countdown clock to when something comes up in conversation revealing my trans status. At which point cis people immediately change how they react to my presence. I’m invisible no longer, and in their eyes, femme no longer.My dating issues aren’t just about being invisible to other queer women. I am also denied my womanhood. Instead of being overlooked like I don’t belong, some lesbians make the case that I literally don’t belong at all. I’m not just an outlier, I’m an impostor.
This varies from person to person, and trans status isn’t the only thing that affects how femmes are read by others. I’m disabled, and this changes how others perceive my femme-ness as well.
What intersections have you encountered between femme identity and trans status? What else affects how you, as a femme, are read by others?
Tags: transmisogyny, trans women, queer politics, queer culture, queer women, femme, cissexism, | Notes: 135
January 29, 2012 by clownyprincess
FRIEND DUMP!
If ‘Memories’ has finished, switch to ‘I Am A Woman in Love’ - my fave Babs song.
With some of my best friends and most favourite people. Even though I blurred out most of their faces - I wasn’t comfy posting their pics publicly otherwise.
I know this pic dump was pretty gratuitous, but look at it this way: some people post dozens of photos of themselves every day. I got it out of the way in one fell swoop. Boo yah!
Tags: gpoy, femme, high femme, glamour, fashion, pin up, camp, | Notes: 15
January 29, 2012 by clownyprincess
AND HAVE A BUNCH MORE!
KEEP ‘MEMORIES’ PLAYING!
Tags: gpoy, femme, high femme, fashion, glamour, pin up, camp, | Notes: 36
January 29, 2012 by clownyprincess
Someone asked me recently why I didn’t post more photos of myself. So here’s a bunch from when I actually liked the way I looked.
Best viewed with Barbara Streisand’s “Memories” playing in the background.
Tags: gpoy, burlesque, femme, high femme, fashion, glamour, pin up, camp, diva, | Notes: 24
Reblogged from thusspakekate November 1, 2011 by clownyprincess
You know what is awesome? Feminine feminists. Why? Because they reject the patriarchal narrative of what it means to be an empowered woman. The patriarchy has made a space for “the feminist” within its structure and deemed her to be a hairy-legged, man-hating caricature. Now, I might not be the most feminine chick in the beauty salon (as my luxurious armpit hair will demonstrate) but the fact that I can shut down a sexist without getting any lipstick on my teeth makes me awesome.
By rejecting femininity wholesale, you’re actually agreeing with the sexist assumption that masculinity is better, that maleness is the more worthy gender. You can recognize the constructed nature of gender at the same time you perform it.
Word! Although, speaking for myself, as a high femme my gender is not performed (though it is performative) and I still recognise the constructed nature of gender.
Not that I think the OP is suggesting this, but as a general note: claiming that all gender is necessarily performed (esp if one has an awareness of gender constructs) can be quite transphobic and/or cissexist.
Tags: femme, feminism, gender politics, | Notes: 12595
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Anti-femme culture (and feminists aren’t immune to this) thinks the effort put into femme presentation is a waste of time and energy – or, at the very least, time and energy that could have been spent doing something more important. Anti-femme culture thinks “pretty” probably means “dumb” even when struggling against a culture obsessed with an impossibly narrow beauty standard. Anti-femme culture thinks you can’t do math AND do your nails.
We are humans! We contain multitudes! I do not think it is a problem that teenaged girls are interested in experimenting with presentation via fashion; I think it’s ridiculous and misogynist that they are ONLY encouraged to do that – and that boys don’t have the same freedom of expression.
"Reblogged from leonineantiheroine August 27, 2011 by clownyprincess
The Rotund by Marianne Kirby (via rufflesnotdiets)
this is relevant right now.
(via theoceanandthesky)
This is good, I love Marianne Kirby :)—but why does it have to be defined as anti-femme and not just plain misogyny?
I had an early 20s, conventionally attractive femme—(who I find rather tiresome)—tell me that my observation about a woman’s misogyny toward other women was talked about a lot, but the fact that women can’t be pretty and smart isn’t. PLEASE. Before I even knew anything about femme—other feminine women and myself (I’m not in my early 20s) had made this distinction quite a while back. And women before us.
Again, why is this not a comment on femininity and just about femmeness? Even though of course femmeness is femininity, but many people want to make it a subset of femininity with its own special logic, values and principles?
Although I do think there is a distinction between anti-femmeness and misogyny in some cases.
(via leonineantiheroine)
Slightly beside the point, but who’s the femme? Spill! Do I know her? Oh god - am *I* her!?!?! Sudden panic at the disco… lol.
On the whole I agree - anti-femininity and the misogyny of it, from within feminist circles and beyond, is hardly a new concept and before I even became aware of the ‘femme’ identity (though, of course, have always been femme) I had been exposed to discussions and criticisms on the prevailing idea that girly women can’t be smart, or that presenting oneself in a traditionally feminine way means you’re a blinded fool.
I think there are, however, distinctions between anti-femme and anti-femininity that come about due to context and environment - who is expressing the sentiments and why. I also think the distinction between anti-femme/femininity and misogyny is important to make because anti-femme/femininity are components of misogyny but do not make up the whole.
As a femme, I experience prejudice against my looks and appearances in two ways: from within the queer community, where it is anti-femme and from beyond, in mainstream and/or heterosexual communities, where it is anti-femininity. I think even within mainstream lesbian communities there is a distinction - where it is both an attitude that is anti-femme and anti-femininity. It operates in a couple of ways - the assumption that you are straight, perhaps cruising and the distaste towards a queer woman “looking straight”. The experience is layered and intersecting.
I do think femmeness is a subset of femininity and often has its own logic, values and principles… but that’s kinda a huge topic. And probably depends on individual experience.
Tags: anti-femme culture, feminism, gender, quote, femme, misogyny, gender identity, gender politics, | Notes: 3735
Reblogged from theartofteese May 6, 2011 by clownyprincess
Oh I bloody love her!
I also love how she’s like…yeah I was a stripper deal with it. And the whole audience gasps.<3
(this isn’t directed at dolcevitared, just a general frustrated exclaimation as this keeps coming up)
She WASN’T a stripper, past tense. She IS a stripper. She has said, SO MANY TIMES, that she IDENTIFIES CURRENTLY as a stripper and that anyone who thinks burlesque isn’t stripping is fooling themselves.
BURLESQUE. IS. STRIPPING.
And Wendy? No. There is no one ‘best’ form of femininity or feminine beauty. Damn I hate that absolutionist shit.
That’s the wonderfulness of it - that there’s so many types and so many forms and so many expressions of femininity and have been throughout history and how wonderful we live in a time when women and others who are feminine get to reach back into such fantastic gender history and create their own expression, or innovate completely.
I always find a lot to connect with in what Dita says and I think she often says some amazing things, although she can also be hugely problematic. I had an absolute obsession (what am I saying, ‘had’, it continues…) with lingerie as a very young girl and likewise, I didn’t covet it with the idea of wearing it for men - it was because it appealed to my particular manifestations of self. It just appealed to my aesthetic to my sense of femininity as decadent and self-indulgent. My love of 30s-40s vintage fashion was formed by both lingerie & Golden Age Hollywood musicals. I bought my first garter belt - bright red synthetic lace - when I was about fifteen. I still have it. <3
(Source: roulettered)
Tags: lingerie, vintage, fashion, dita von teese, femme, high femme, Gender Roles, gender theory, gender identity, | Notes: 185
May 5, 2011 by clownyprincess
For all the girly-types & vintage/burlesque lovers out there… a pile-up of various of my Rago & What Katie Did foundation garments!
I got a couple of new items today and was admiring them & decided to admire some others and then was heaping them on my bed… I was going to get them all out but I realised pretty quick things would just get ridiculous… the second photo is of the drawer where they came from… AFTER I’d taken them all out!
There’s 21 items on the bed (and one very cute cat!) and I don’t even know what’s in the drawer…
… I’ve wanted this extensive a Rago collection FOREVER (in my opinion, the most superior manufacturers of true-to-vintage foundation garments OUT THERE in terms of support and function) and it’s taken me a fair few years to get it all. I LOVE THEM!!!!!!!!
I also love my WKD stuff… but I have some regrets in that they do limited-run lines and I’ve missed out on some really beautiful ones I would’ve been ecstatic to own.
Tags: fashion,, girdles, foundation garments, corsets, suspenders, garters, lingerie, underwear, femme, glaomour, vintage, pinup, burlesque, | Notes: 13
Do You and Other Words of Wisdom About Female Geekery
May 4, 2011
Stop everything and go and read this article, written by @emmahouxbois. Absolutely vital reading on internalised misogyny by girl geeks inflicted on other girl geeks, including a shaming of feminine expression, and the insistence by all genders on centralising discussion of female geekery through a male gaze.
(Please reblog and spread around too!)
Tags: Girls Read Comics Too, feminism, sexism, misogyny, geek girls, geeks, comics, male gaze, femme, | Notes: 25
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