January 28, 2012 by clownyprincess

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"When your only female character exists to be bartered and abused, that is lazy writing. When you raise the stakes by threatening a woman with rape, that is lazy writing. When you demonstrate the “seriousness” of a situation by describing a brutal rape, that is lazy writing. When you inject emotion into a flagging scene by making the man throw the woman against the wall, that is lazy writing. Not only is it lazy writing, but when rape is used lightly and cheaply as a convenient narrative device, it hurts people."

Reblogged from shearsandsnares November 29, 2011 by clownyprincess

Monica Byrne.

Zing.

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Hey, DC comics, check it out.

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Reblogged from kyleandkittens November 26, 2011 by clownyprincess

kyleandkittens:

“We live in a country of free speech, you’re allowed to say what you want - and so am I.” - Kyle Sandilands “apologising” to Alison Stephenson.
“Watch your mouth, girl, or I will hunt you down.” - Kyle Sandilands to Alison Stephenson. 

kyleandkittens:

“We live in a country of free speech, you’re allowed to say what you want - and so am I.” - Kyle Sandilands “apologising” to Alison Stephenson.

“Watch your mouth, girl, or I will hunt you down.” - Kyle Sandilands to Alison Stephenson. 


Reblogged from kyleandkittens November 26, 2011 by clownyprincess

kyleandkittens:

 
On July 29, 2009, Kyle and Jackie O brought a 14-year-old girl and her mother into the studio for their Lie Detector segment. Despite saying, “I’m scared… it’s not fair,” the 14-year-old girl was forced to undergo a lie detector test live on air. When questioned about her sexual history, she angrily revealed that she had been raped at the age of 12. Kyle Sandilands paused, then asked, “Right… Is that the only experience you’ve had?”

kyleandkittens:

On July 29, 2009, Kyle and Jackie O brought a 14-year-old girl and her mother into the studio for their Lie Detector segment. Despite saying, “I’m scared… it’s not fair,” the 14-year-old girl was forced to undergo a lie detector test live on air. When questioned about her sexual history, she angrily revealed that she had been raped at the age of 12. Kyle Sandilands paused, then asked, “Right… Is that the only experience you’ve had?”


Writer/Artist/Fangirl: Reblog this if you've ever been verbally or physically sexually harrassed.

Reblogged from cherieofthedragons November 14, 2011

notdoingmywork:

However you define this. I want to see the numbers, and I want to see if there’s any solidarity here, male and female, because this happens to both.

I hope no one’s too ashamed to reblog this, because you shouldn’t be ashamed. You didn’t ask for it. So you shouldn’t be the…


Psychic Summer Camper: I'm going to have to discuss slut-shaming and rape cultures on my first day of 10th grade.

Reblogged from dwemerkiin August 26, 2011

a-mock-turtle:

clownyprincess:

a-mock-turtle:

After both of the concepts have been reinforced in the books that were required summer reading for my class. I’m almost scared.

God give me stre-

No, screw that. Elise Archer, give me strength.

<3

But holy crap, I feel for you. What books were they?  

10th grade? I have absolute admiration for you to be willing to go tackle such a loaded issue so young. When I was in 10th grade, I was doodling pictures of the Joker with love hearts around them and wearing black lipstick. Of course, now that I think about it, we never did a single class ideal for discussing such a complex topic either. Even our English texts were safe classics.

Anyway. Good luck with it. 

Thank you! The book in question was Kite Runner by Khaled Hosseini. 

In the book, a young boy was raped (I think he was 10 or 11) by another boy, and the main character witnessed it. But he didn’t do anything or tell anyone about it. In fact, he got the victim kicked out of his house (the victim was his servant) because he couldn’t deal with his own guilt. He dealt with the guilt throughout the book, but towards the end his mentor says it wasn’t his fault and he was always being too hard on himself. Which is bullshit, in my opinion.

There is also a loooooot of slut-shaming and blatant sexism relating to (but not exclusively) Afghan culture, and a woman is completely ostracized because she chose to live with her boyfriend after her family moved to America. Basically, most of the female characters in the book are given worth and meaning based only on their sexual habits.

And we read it all over the summer without any guidance, so I don’t think most people in my class actually know what to do in that situation. It was baaaad.

But thank you so much, you were my main inspiration for being able to get up and say something about it. <3

Ha, thanks, you are more than welcome, I frankly think you’re very brave for doing such a thing - it ain’t easy, especially if you’re introducing entirely new concepts to people.

Have you already spoken? How did it go? It’s totally problematic you were not given any guidance on it. 


I’m going to have to discuss slut-shaming and rape cultures on my first day of 10th grade.

Reblogged from dwemerkiin August 25, 2011 by clownyprincess

a-mock-turtle:

After both of the concepts have been reinforced in the books that were required summer reading for my class. I’m almost scared.

God give me stre-

No, screw that. Elise Archer, give me strength.

<3

But holy crap, I feel for you. What books were they?  

10th grade? I have absolute admiration for you to be willing to go tackle such a loaded issue so young. When I was in 10th grade, I was doodling pictures of the Joker with love hearts around them and wearing black lipstick. Of course, now that I think about it, we never did a single class ideal for discussing such a complex topic either. Even our English texts were safe classics.

Anyway. Good luck with it. 


Reblogged from moxycrimefighter July 28, 2011 by clownyprincess

friendlyneighborhoodcurmudgeon:

Two MSU basketball players raped a woman in the dorms then one admitted to it. Their only consequence was that they had to move out of the dorms. This picture is of me and one other woman holding up this banner during Midnight Madness. Two other brave souls had a banner on the other side for a while before some jerk started playing tug or war with them over it. This was taken before we got booed at by 10,000 people and police escorted from the stadium. 

friendlyneighborhoodcurmudgeon:

Two MSU basketball players raped a woman in the dorms then one admitted to it. Their only consequence was that they had to move out of the dorms. This picture is of me and one other woman holding up this banner during Midnight Madness. Two other brave souls had a banner on the other side for a while before some jerk started playing tug or war with them over it. This was taken before we got booed at by 10,000 people and police escorted from the stadium. 

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Sedentary Meanderings: Why I won't be in SlutWalk

Reblogged from ardhra June 13, 2011

ardhra:

Warning: mentions of transphobia, rape, sexual violence, sexism, cissexism, heterosexism, racism.

I’ve thought about it quite a bit and I don’t think I’ll participate in the Sydney SlutWalk.

I’ve never really identified with the term “slut” and while I have no problem with people using it to…

An excellent, considered post discussing some of the fundamental flaws of the SlutWalk movement. Important to read.


SlutWalk: A Testimony By A Transgender Man

June 9, 2011 by clownyprincess

The below is a transcript of a speech given at Melbourne Slutwalk this year on the 28th May. This speech was given by a transgender man who was assigned female at birth and socialised as female before asserting his true identity as a man. He was raped both when society perceived him as female and after his transition. 

The amazing, powerful & wonderful testimony he gave as one of five awesome speeches prior to the march itself was considered by many to be the highlight of the event.  Even a nearby policeman was spotted crying as he listened to this story!

I am proud to know this man and call him my friend. He has given his permission to me to share his speech on tumblr. We encourage you all to reblog and share it further.

He has, however, asked that his name not be attached to this post.


(Trigger warning for discussion of rape and assault)

I just want to make it clear that I am here on behalf of myself only. I do not represent anyone but myself and my words are all my own. Public speaking is not something I’ve done before so please understand if I don’t seem confident in my speech as I never actually feel safe in public.

Firstly I’d like to state that I chose to speak today as a masculine voice because I think it’s important that all voices are heard. 

I speak as a transman, 

as someone who was socialized as female, 

as someone who accesses masculine privilege (amongst many other privileges), 

as a survivor of sexual-assault 

and 

as a survivor of victim-blaming.

I’d also like to state that my views of female socialization are incredibly strong throughout this speech and that I recognize that women are not the only people subject to sexual-assault.

This is a trigger warning:

I am going to be talking about sexual-assault that I have experienced. I will not be going into detail about the attacks but I am going to be using the word “rape” as it is very important to me to use it’s strength to keep myself strong.

I have been sexually assaulted both as a female and since finding myself, as a trans man. It has taken me years to stop blaming myself and sometimes I still find myself doing so. I struggle a lot with the fact that as a woman, I felt too unsafe to report my rape to authorities but somehow felt safer to do so as a transgender person. I’ve spent a lot of time trying to figure out why I felt this way and I’d like to share some of my thoughts.

I never knew what it felt like to be a woman, even before I knew I was a man.

When I was still in the closet about my gender, I was taking all my pointers from society. I knew I had to reach someone’s expectation of femininity and tick someone’s box to be a “real female”. These boxes I thought I had to tick were as simple as past-fashioned stereo-types “girls have long hair”, “girls wear dresses” etc and as relatively complex (for a young teen) as “if my sexual partner is a female and I am a female then I have to identify as a lesbian…unless of course we invite a boy into the picture, which makes me bi”.

What I never realized when I was trying so hard to be female is that I was actually doing what far too many people do and not questioning WHY I had to do these things and who’s ideas or expectations I was attempting to live up to.

Since knowing that I am trans and learning more about my rights, since stepping away from being female, since stepping into the privilege of being read as male, I have been able to see SO clearly just how much I was blaming myself for everything. The guilt I had when I was trying to live as female was overwhelming and it makes me feel SO sick to my stomach to think that there are still people existing and living every day with this unwarranted guilt over their heads.

I’d spent far too many years blaming myself for my own rapes. For my state of intoxication at the time, for what I was wearing, for how I was behaving, for how I was dancing and who I was dancing with. For choosing to spend my last $20 on booze instead of a cab and therefore having to walk home. For not being physically strong enough to keep the rapists off me and for even leaving my home in the first place.

For hundreds of years, women have been socialized to feel responsible for everything. 

To feel responsible for everything negative. 

To feel negative for feeling.

There is so much self-doubt slammed into women by society that even if other people aren’t blaming them, survivors will be blaming themselves.

Within the last six months, I opened up to my mother about an assault I had lived through. Her initial reaction was something like “WHO DID THIS TO YOU? I’M GOING TO FUCKING KILL THEM” but within what could not have been more than five minutes, her headspace had shifted to “When did this happen? Why didn’t you tell me sooner? Don’t I support you enough? I’m a terrible mother. How could I let this happen to you?”

We were two hysterical beings filled with rage, sitting in our pjs and bawling our eyes out. I wasn’t crying about my rape. I was crying that my mother was blaming herself.

After holding her and comforting her until she was able to hold herself, I was left feeling guilty. I felt guilty for making my mother cry. I felt guilty for not being able to support her more. I felt guiltY for not being able to convince her it wasn’t her fault. Then I felt cold. Why was I comforting someone else because they were upset that *I* was raped? Where was my comfort? Then another rush of guilt came. It was my fault my mother knew I’d been raped. It was my fault she was crying. It was horrible of me to want more comfort. I felt guilty for needing to be held.

I wish so much that years ago, someone had have told me that my rape was not my fault.

I URGE PEOPLE:

If anyone has ever been brave enough to share with you information about being assaulted. LET THEM KNOW IT IS NOT THEIR FAULT. If you are standing near someone who is OUT about being a SURVIVOR, tell them: IT IS NOT, WAS NOT AND WILL NEVER BE THEIR FAULT.

**

Since living as male, in queer and feminist communities as well as the huge world outside of my privileged bubble, I have had hardly anything aimed at me to feel that ANYTHING is my responsibility. I am sick of women’s voices being the only voices speaking up against rape. I am sick of SURVIVORS’ voices being the only voices speaking up against rape.

It is not the responsibility of survivors to educate everyone else on rape.

Same as it is not women’s responsibility to educate people on sexism; it is not the responsibility of People Of Colour to educate naive white people on racism. It is not the responsibility of people with different ability to educate people on Ableism. And it is not the responsibility of trans* people to educate cis people on trans* issues.

If you come from a place of privilege, it is your responsibility to recognize that, educate yourself and educate OTHERS.

I have walked down a dark main road, after midnight both as a woman and as a man. There is a REASON a lone woman will cross the street to AVOID me.

DUDES, MEN, MALES, FELLAS, GUYS: I can not say this enough, it is YOUR responsibility to educate yourself on rape. It is YOUR responsibility to educate your friends on rape. It is your responsibility, just for accessing your privilege, to use it the best way you can.

If you believe in women’s rights. If you believe in feminism. If you believe women and men should be equal. Then I dare you to doubt yourself, I dare you to strip yourself of all your safety, I dare you to wear clothes that society will scrutinize you for. Wear something that will get you attacked. THEN recognize that there is nothing a woman can wear that WON’T get her attacked.

I don’t know what else there is I feel I can say. I’m exhausted. Thank you so much for your time and thanks Clem for giving me the opportunity to speak today.

I’m going to leave this unfinished because this dialogue should only stop when rape stops.

Thanks.


Just Being Nimself: Kael T. Block and how "positive" stereotyping of trans men helps to enable rape denial

Reblogged from scar-lip-deactivated20120709 June 5, 2011

neutresex:

graftversushost:

TRIGGERS: sexual assault and some serious rape apologism

I have an announcement to make. Actually, we should all be in the habit of talking about this every few months at least until a day comes when he is finally accountable, and until our communities do not harbor attitudes that enable this behavior.

Kael T. Block, the founder and photographer of the XX Boys project, is a serial rapist who fled the United States for France in order to avoid prosecution. Based on the information available online, he has sexually assaulted multiple women in the San Francisco Bay Area and at least one in Paris and probably more.

When the details of his behavior became public, all sorts of excuses went flying. He said the survivor is allowed to feelraped, but that doesn’t mean he raped her. His friends said he’s just a dominant who hasn’t mastered safewords, no big deal! Those silly girls are just jealous, mentally unstable, and attention-seeking! And, worst of all, hey, he’s a transman, not like those other men!

Well thankfully, not everyone bought that. Do watch this video, it is amazing:

I would love to be able to read or see his entire talk, but it has never been made available.

XX Boys currently has 5,984 fans on Facebook. Unsurprisingly, anyone who mentions the fact that it’s run by a rapist has their comments deleted and is blocked from commenting the Wall. This isn’t even Roman Polanski - the guy takes pinup pictures of trans guys. That is all, and apparently he is so vital to the world that the people he has raped have been told to shut up for the good of “the community.”

Do not support this piece of shit, and do not support thetransphobic idea that trans men are harmless, elfin dudes who cannot possibly take part in male domination and commit abuse or assault.

Oh and by the way, Lynee Breedlove of Tribe 8 is one of his staunchest defenders. Really. Let’s think before we celebrate queer “heroes” who so quickly go from writing songs about castrating rapists to defending and supporting fellow trans and “feminist” rapists.

More information, including survivor accounts here:

http://writingtoknow.blogspot.com/2007/11/sexual-predator-in-our-community.html

Commentary following the initial community reaction:

http://brownstargirl.blog.friendster.com/2006/08/lexs-statement/

French-language story about people standing up to Kael’s presence in queer/feminist space in Paris. Even machine-translated, this comment is awesome:

http://fitofpique.blogspot.com/2006/08/sexual-predators-in-queer-community.html?showComment=1251745349532#c2209112776235969960

Damn. Shit to know.

YES. So fucking important to get out there. I am dismayed to see Kael’s work still supported and these facts about his history as a rapist be so unknown in Australia. He is gross & his work should be boycotted.


The Little Cosplay Things: Slut-Shaming, Body Policing & Misogyny

May 5, 2011

In response to the increasingly disgusting and judgemental ‘tips’ posted on this blog and particularly to the ignorant and obnoxious way the owner of the blog responded to the very valid and gently-worded criticism in the link above, I immediately unfollowed and sent the below message:

Notions of ‘classy’ are bullshit smokescreens intended to set up elitism through unfavourable comparison because people cannot take charge of their own self-esteem. So long as they can make themselves feel better by thinking to themselves: “well, she looks like a slut and I am classy!” they never have to critically self-examine why they’re so down on themselves anyway or why they have internalised such misogynistic ideas around how women are ‘allowed’ to dress. 

And actually, since we live in a rape culture in which many people believe it is okay to NON-CONSENSUALLY touch others - particularly people in costume - no, NEVER take it for granted people will automatically tack an ‘with permission’ onto the end. Because a lot of people DON’T. So just cop responsibility for the lack of care with which you phrased things.

This is a description of rape culture:

http://finallyfeminism101.wordpress.com/2009/10/19/rape-culture-101/

This is slut-shaming, that also has a section on double-standards:

http://finallyfeminism101.wordpress.com/2010/04/04/what-is-slut-shaming/#more-484

And here’s a slam on body policing, for good measure:

http://themagicsquarefoundation.wordpress.com/2011/03/09/ffb-network-body-policing/

They’re useful things to read, for the expansion of your own understanding and the elimination of your own ignorance.

This blog started cute and turned into a piece of elitist, normative, judgemental shit really quickly. 

Stop victim-blaming. Stop erecting heirarchies to undermine others. Stop policing women’s freedom of expression. Just stop all your misogynistic, classist, sex-negative regurgitation and just flush it once and for all. 


Reblogged from genderqueer April 29, 2011 by clownyprincess

dahlias-y-rosas:

[image: a retro drawing of a thin light skinned, anglo featured hourglass shaped girl with long, light hair, in a tight one-piece bathing suit, and heels, surrounded by the text… “I FIGHT BACK in caps, with “against a mindset that makes me a victim and then blames me for what was done to me, against policies created solely to control or humble me, against social conditioning that says feminine = weak/bad/dirty/wrong, against Toxic Girl Hate, against the idea that it is ok to touch/hurt/rape/shame/control my body because it is considered public property, against harmful gendered politics disguised as “protection,” against defining people by an outdated gender binary and/or their genitals, against a worldview that has no place for growth, change, art, freedom, or revolution. You might think I look Like “Just A Girl,” but you should be very, very afraid of me.” subtext= this message brought to you by The Riot http://theriotmag.tumblr.com]
finally a woman oriented mini manifesto that doesn’t confuse femininity with womanhood or pussy with woman or any of that. &lt;3333

dahlias-y-rosas:

[image: a retro drawing of a thin light skinned, anglo featured hourglass shaped girl with long, light hair, in a tight one-piece bathing suit, and heels, surrounded by the text… “I FIGHT BACK in caps, with “against a mindset that makes me a victim and then blames me for what was done to me, against policies created solely to control or humble me, against social conditioning that says feminine = weak/bad/dirty/wrong, against Toxic Girl Hate, against the idea that it is ok to touch/hurt/rape/shame/control my body because it is considered public property, against harmful gendered politics disguised as “protection,” against defining people by an outdated gender binary and/or their genitals, against a worldview that has no place for growth, change, art, freedom, or revolution. You might think I look Like “Just A Girl,” but you should be very, very afraid of me.” subtext= this message brought to you by The Riot http://theriotmag.tumblr.com]

finally a woman oriented mini manifesto that doesn’t confuse femininity with womanhood or pussy with woman or any of that. <3333


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